The relaunch of SavagelyYours means so much to me! It’s almost as if I’ve gotten my baby back…. well, one of many babies that is! Speaking the term “baby,” the word MARRIAGE has been the word for the year 2013! I’m sure you share my sentiments when I say, “This has been the year of engagements and weddings”. Now don’t get me wrong, I Love “LOVE” ; but have you ever scratched your head and said to yourself….”Are they really married?”
With the hype over reality shows and celebrity relationships, it’s safe to say the infidelity virus has been getting around lately (married or not). So what does that say about the state of marriages and commitment? Here are my views on the current condition of matrimony in 2013:
1. Marriages are modern day living/financial arrangements
Yea I said it! People are beginning to “tie the knot” to ensure financial stability. I mean, who doesn’t want a long term roommate to stack bread with, split all the bills, and end the night with a lil something… or nah? It’s almost like the perfect arrangement.
2. Kids are involved
Believe it or not…I’ve been told by a male friend that he’s going to marry his baby ‘s mother to avoid paying child support. Child Support PEOPLE!!! On aanother note, the thought of with another man/woman raising their kid(s) can be a paralyzing idea for some. So, despite the genuiness of the relationship or wether someone feels their child’s mother/father is their soulmate they try to build on that relationship. Let us know how that goes…
3. It’s the New Normal
This includes individuals who marry because that’s what they’re supposed to do, just like graduating and getting a job. They’ve been in a comfortable situation for awhile and it’s just the next step, they think. Again, ignoring the “is this my soulmate” doubt. For me, I always thought marriage was a holy matrimony with your soul-mate!
Let me be clear on my views, I do not believe Marriage is supposed to be a trend; however, people are throwing rings around like they were won out of a box of Crunch ‘n Munch! I believe there is TRUE, God ordained love out there for everyone. If you have any doubts about the person you’re with being “the one”, why are you with them? Further if you have unresolved feelings for/miss someone else you probably shouldn’t even be considering marriage (let alone a commitment) .
I asked one of SY faithful readers her thoughts on ‘Love and Marriage’ she responded with, “You know when your body lights up when you get that first kiss from a guy and your whole body is like in overload?….When you are still with that person ten years from now, and you still feel the same way.” Is this really what it has come to?
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